Living With Regret - How To Cope In Healthy Ways

Through the Glass Recovery

E66: Living With Regret - How to Cope in Healthy Ways

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Living with regret can be exhausting, frustrating, disheartening, and even dangerous. But it can also be motivating and empowering, if you choose to look at it that way. How we learn to live with regret is a choice that we get to make. We can let it fuel our growth and our purpose, or we can let it hold us down forever. Which will you choose?

In this episode, we are joined by author and motivation speaker Martin Lockett, sober podcast host Scott (The Sober Heathen), and sober influencer Chris (IOHO2) to talk about the regrets we are living with, and ways we’ve found to cope so the regret can fuel us and not consume us.

“I made bad choices. I’m not a bad person.”

In this episode:

The difference between guilt and shame
What it means to “investigate” your thouhts
Finding purpose and meaning through regret
Learning from our mistakes instead of drowning in them
Coping with the regret of lost time
Coming to terms with missing memories
Empowerment or victimhood? It’s your choice.
Living with attention, living your ammends

“You get to decide if that’s where your story ends, or if you’re going to write a whole second book.”

Martin Lockett is a substance abuse counselor, author, public speaker, and advocate for reducing DUI fatalities. He spent 17.5 years in prison for a DUI fatality that claimed two lives and severely injured another. Lockett devoted the rest of his life to honoring his victims’ legacies by helping others who struggle with substance abuse. While incarcerated, Martin earned a BS in sociology, MS in psychology, and acquired state certification as a substance abuse counselor, and published two books. Now released, Lockett continues his mission and message by helping those in need of counseling for mental health and substance use disorders and sharing his powerful story across the country.

Scott: I am a proud father of twin boys. I host The Sober Heathen podcast with
which I document my recovery journey. Although it is sometimes painful
and deeply raw it helps me tremendously to recover honestly and openly!
I have 4 OWI’s, thousands in fines due, no license until the 30’s (2030
:P), I am living back home, and I still have never felt better and in
more control! Recovery is worth it because with it there is always HOPE!

Christian is responsible for the Facebook recovery page with the funny letters and numbers in it’s name, IOHO2. His first go at this new way of living was in 2015-’17 when he also kept a Facebook journal known as #itonlyhurtsonce, (IOHO). Then, as he admittedly states, sobriety lost its priority. Christian has traded in his taxi-cabs to be your local delivery guy these days, and celebrates 15 months sober with us on November the 12th!!

If dealing with regret is something you struggle with, we also encourage you to listen to our first episode about regret, which can be found here.

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