Feeling insecure when you get sober is completely normal, and even expected. Insecurity is a loud companion in early sobriety, and in life. In this episode, we’re talking about it honestly. So often, when we put down alcohol, we find that we no longer have a way to quiet the inner critic… or in some cases, it fuels the insecurity even more. The key to moving through insecurity is to find ways to do it without the shame and avoidance we used to use. Now we use new tools, new mindsets, and the newfound confidence of sobriety.
Chris, Emily, Julie, and Steve gather for a heartfelt conversation about how insecurity showed up for them after putting down the drink, and what it’s looked like to build confidence from the ground up.
“You’re just a speck on a giant floating rock.”
Key topics discussed:
- Feeling like the odd one out in social settings without alcohol
- Why insecurity often starts way before our first drink
- How journaling, mindset shifts, and reframing help quiet the inner critic
- The vicious cycle of guilt, stress, and alcohol
- What happens when you stop numbing and start facing hard feelings
- Why confidence isn’t a feeling—it’s something you build
- Insecurity is a natural part of being human, not something to always be avoided.
- Digging into the why: Why do you feel insecure? What fear is beneath the insecurity?
This episode is full of real talk, personal stories, and a few laughs (including talk of Steve’s future AI bobblehead 😄). Whether you’re early in recovery or just feeling shaky in your skin, this one’s for you.
Chris Cardone, owner of Continuous Beverage Solutions, boasts 24+ years in bartending and hospitality, consulting for NYC’s top bars and restaurants. A 2017 Diageo World Class Bartending US Champion, he placed 5th globally and now judges the competition. Featured in Epicurious and major publications, Chris also educates with DiageoBarAcademy.com, partners on Astreaus Gin, and pioneers “healthy mixology.” A flair bartending finalist and trainer to stars, he’s shaped the industry with expertise and passion.
Chris Cardone
Founder @ Continuous Beverage Solutions
Chief Mixologist @ Via Carota Craft Cocktails
Director of Mixology @ Astraeaus
2017 Diageo World Class US Bartender of the Year
I’m Emily (sober_living_at_40) I’m 40 years old, a mum of two and I’ve been married for 17 years. I chose sobriety on 21/04/24 and it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I love the clarity, freedom and energy that sobriety has brought into my life. Travel is a big passion of mine – I love exploring new places and creating lasting memories with my family. Life feels exciting and I’m embracing every moment of this new chapter.
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